In ‘Not just Sreesanth, the BCCI is greedy too’ on firstpost.com, Ashish Magotra writes, “…to put it metaphorically, the BCCI fixes the game outside the field.
They ensure that DRS is not used – despite the ICC okaying it initially. They have men in important committees. They rig elections. They even allegedly told Cricket South Africa that they were opposed to Haroon Lorgat becoming their chief executive. The BCCI even had a huge hand in ensuring that Bangladesh got Test status. …..
If the BCCI can do all of this and get away with it, what is the message that it is sending to the cricketers?
Now whether Sreesanth, Chavan and Chandila are guilty or not… one has to wonder whether the BCCI’s actions have in no way affected these players. Many studies have revealed in the past that children tend to pick up the habits of their parents – it is almost an unconscious habit.”
Some years back, my neighbour, a businessman, had mentioned that he normally discusses the highlights of his day’s work with his family during dinner. This was his way of grooming his 9 years old son who, he hoped, would eventually take over his business. One evening, when this neighbour’s son was playing with his friends, his elder sister reminded him that he had not prepared sufficiently for his Mathematics test the next day. The boy, obviously more concerned about his game than about the next day’s test, ignored her. She pointed out that he had to do well in that test to make up for his poor performance in the previous test. If he did badly in the next day’s test, he would be in trouble. His reply: “Don’t worry, Didi! I’m sure I’ll do well tomorrow. By chance, if I do badly, I’ll bribe the teacher to give me good marks.” Obviously, my neighbour’s grooming was effective!
On another day, I was at another neighbour’s house when her son returned after purchasing some items from the local grocer. The boy handed over the bill and the change to his mother, who realised that the grocer had given excess change by mistake, Rs. 37 instead of Rs. 27. She requested her son to return the excess amount to the grocer immediately. The 12 years old boy was reluctant to go out again as it was very hot outside. His mother insisted, explaining that, while Rs. 10 was a minor amount for them, it was a significant amount for the grocer, hence they should not take even the slightest chance that they would forget to return it later. To the best of my knowledge, the mother was not trying to groom her son. She was only doing what she thought was correct. In the process, she was being a wonderful role model for her son!
(In an email response to ‘Think before speaking or acting!’, Amar Verma said, “I firmly believe in what you are saying – to think about the impact of what you are about to say or do.
While I am no expert on behavioral growth of youngsters, I do believe that they are impacted more by how the folks in their ‘influence circle’ behave than by any advertisement on TV or posters. We tend to blame everything else for the perceived (every generation thinks that the youngsters are lost because of ….) ills of our kids instead of looking within ourselves and our immediate circle of friends/family who, in my view, have the most impact on their upbringing.”)